Expired friends..

I first heard this phrase from a close friend.. i remembered me asking her what is the definition of expired friends... she told me it's basically ppl whom u dun talk to anymore cos u realise there aren't many or no common topics to talk about anymore... i guess it is a common thing until it strike myself...

The same friend had asked me to join her colleagues for a board game session one night.. we had met the previous night for dinner to celebrate the nov babies' birthday... but what was different was that i didn't have the familiar ex colleagues around.. only her and another friend and their 4 other colleagues... i declined, knowing full well i will be left out... and with a briefing session that was going on on the same day, all i wanted was just to chill at some watering hole... so that day, my work ended at close to 730pm and i did end up meeting another friend to have a couple of drinks....

Some time later after this incident, one of them asked me if i had declined the invitation simply bcos i felt left out... i guess so... i could no longer appreciate systems and all that... so if they are gonna start talking about things that happen at work, i guess i would be bored... and also similarly for them, if they keep hearing about my work, they would get bored too... and then that friend said something like "yeah, i guess once u settle down, we might just drift apart too cos we wouldn't have much to talk about too"... well, maybe this is what we call expired friends...

anyway, another person tendered at work this evening... that makes 5 this month... not that i am affected by the culture or anything but i guess it is demoralising... u barely know this bunch of ppl and have done 2 events together, u're building up the rapport and they are going again... esp when in events, u dunno who u can rely on when u are the overall in charge... u can't be doing everything yourself and yet u cannot find anybody to help u... but in the meantime, i'm trying to keep my chin up... although everyone is telling me it's not worth it to put in effort for even the slightest thing, but i guess it is really the respect u have for your own job... u just want a good job done... no matter how small.. cos in events, it matters a lot...

island's dnd is coming up soon... quite excited about it... afterall, this is something that i had participated in most parts of it and i really think it is gonna be a good job done... =) shall update u once it's over...