You & me...

You know something? The destiny between you and me started 2 yrs ago, during that briefing session... I was among the many of the volunteers who attended the session and you probably do not even remember me... it was probably easier for me to spot you though... You appeared with no smile, armed with that notebook of yours and looking really stern... something just told me that this guy is something different from the rest...

Fast forward to almost 8 mths ago where my ex boss hired me into the company, the money was no good, no benefits but to be near you and to get to know you better made the deal sweeter almost instantly.... but your not smiley face greeted me when I first came onboard... bah... but coincidentally, it was your birthday when I first joined... and just one yr and a week ahead of mine... hahah.. 2 virgos... such coincidence...

As the days moved on, you showed me that you were somebody who thought using your brain and you opened up my eyes to a lot more things that I have never experienced before.. it was also through you that my thinking process got a bit more thorough... as a manager, you sat down with me to go through the whole nonsense thingy despite your busy schedule... when everyone was attacking me when I was not around, you saw things in perspective.. thank you for that...

Our driving trips home together made us a whole lot more closer... thanks to you, i saved a bit on cab fare and it does help that the car you drove was a cool looking rav4.... somehow, you felt comfortable enough to share your relationship woes with me... driving trips became coffee sessions and with you sharing more... hopefully you can let the past go and move onto other stuff in your life... you shared your dreams and aspirations with me... you gave me the courage to take the huge leap in life... whether it works out or not, that's something in the future... for now, i'm just thankful for you in my life. somebody to share my dreams with, somebody to push me along...

thank you shaun...

Something from Mooiness

Here's a post that Marcus has done recently... I like reading his blog... gives me insight on what goes on in a men's brain... and oh yes, it helps when there is humor involved..

Getting the girl: Universal truths

1. Persistence doesn’t work. If the girl likes you, you don’t even have to do anything. And conversely, if the girl doesn’t like you, your persistence will annoy her and may border on being creepy.

2. Once you are in the friend zone, it’s very difficult to get out of it. See rule #1. But if you can only be friends, unless she led you on don’t be angry and bitter about it. She may have single friends who won’t put you in the friend zone like she did.

3. A girl who uses you because she knows that you like her and will do anything for her because you think it will win her over (see rule #1), will not make you happy even if you get her. Because she will just keep using you. Why would she stop when you are so willing?

4. Getting the girl takes a little bit of effort, but so does keeping the girl. But if she’s the right person all along, neither of that would be too difficult.

5. After you’ve gotten the girl, there are no guarantees. Try not to think too much and ruin it; just enjoy the journey no matter how fleeting. If you want to and can save it from ending, then do; if not, don’t try to hold on to it.

Here's the link to his blog if you guys are interested: http://mooiness.com/

Mars vs Venus

Recently, I've thought a lot about how men and women think and react to things... didn't manage to put it down until now.... A lot of them are just my personal conversations with my friends, both male and female as well as my own experiences...

People always say women are hard to please, difficult to understand, try too hard for equality and yet want to be pampered... I agree... I did a sociology course in university on the gender and we did a major discussion on equality of both sexes... while my lecturer was so crazy over the fact that women should be treated equally in our society, i felt that physically and mentally we are different.... i dun need to be treated equally but i just want to be treated fairly... i like to be pampered as a woman... to be given flowers, to be showered with love and to me, my partner has to be able to give me emotional support more than financial support.. i can earn my own money at the very least...

Women in love are very funny creatures... I had a wine session with a girlfriend last night and she told me this... women will be missing their men, wondering if they have had a bad day at work, wondering if they have had their meals, wondering if they have the time to chat, basically missing them for the whole day...men prob dun feel that way though... men will be engrossed in work and even if they have the time to go for dinner or drinks with their friends, they choose not to spend 5-10 mins to call you or send an sms to you... not even weekends, my fellow ladies... most of the time, women have to make the first move of calling the guy before he even volunteers information on his exact location... and that, in turn, would be deem as posessive by men... but what they dunno is that women have already waited a whole day just to hear your voice and it is all that matters... and besides, how much time do u need to call out and just say a word of hi? men would tell you, they are busy at work, they dun have time, they are in the middle of something... what about time before you sleep? what about time when you go for lunch or taking a smoke or coffee break? It all boils down to effort, my dear men...

Men and women before and after the start of a relationship is different too... men before the start of a relationship is eager, persistent and maybe a bit of sincere.... but once they manage to start the relationship, they relax and all other efforts to maintain the relationship immediately slides to zero... women on the other hand, is hesitant before the relationship.. unsure if he is the one whom she loves but once she sets her mind on him and decides on him, she starts to put in more effort in the relationship, she believes in maintaining the sparks... her commitment level slowly moves up the scale...

Women like to question about a lot of things.. like why did u break up with your ex? would you do this? blah blah blah.... to women, she cares and that is why she is asking more about your past... if a woman is not interested in you, she wouldn't even bother asking at all...

Women at work vs men at work are very different as well.. women will be more sensitive to ppl's feelings.. at least my female bosses were that way.. but my male bosses were more results oriented... i prefer male bosses though.. cos i feel work is work.. although there is room for emotions, time is lost... especially when you need things done quickly... quickly finish the task then we can talk about emotions.. that's my take on it... i dun like to drag things which i can finish in a short while...

so in short, men and women are very different..in relationships, in work and in life... this could go on and on for the next centuries to come.. for me, i always embrace this policy when in relationships, work or in life... always ask, communicate and clarify... if you assume, the one that is losing out is just yourself...