Reflection part 1

A friend clarified some relationship issues with the group of us today... said they weren't together and said sorry for cheating us and making up the story... when we did ask about what actually happened, he squirmed at answering our questions and insisted that we do not speak of the relationship anymore... not to him and also not to her...

Looking back at all that has happened since she left for overseas... it doesn't seem to make sense to the stupidest person.. the girl, initially, avoided the topic of them being together which made us feel that they are not together at all... then she admitted that they are indeed an item... now she tells the whole world they are not... as for the guy, he has admitted to us that they are an item, showed so much of devotion by going home early to call her and just to chat with her... booked an air ticket to go overseas to visit her... acted so much like a good boyfriend who was willing to wait till she's back... no amount of words that we say to him could sway his confidence that this relationship might not work due to the distance....

Now... they are saying that they are not together.. never was an item... how many of us could believe? I think none... being the close friends, we were naturally concerned about what has caused the change in idea and all... of course, our questions were unanswered... however, personally i feel that there's probably 3 kinds of scenarios...

Scenario 1
They really weren't together in the first place... the guy made it all up... but knowing the guy, you know he wouldn't say such things like a joke... plus this is the girl whom we all knew... what's gonna happen to her reputation? However, if they weren't really together, why did he have to give her his promise? Why did he want to fly over there to spend time with her? Why would he give up his night owl lifestyle to wait at home for her phone call? Go figure.

Scenario 2
They were together and maybe they think that distance is an obstacle and they decided not to be together...
afterall, this lady i've known her to make impulse decisions and then regret about it... not surprised about it anyway... but that's the case, and the guy is still in love with her, i think he's just being silly...

Scenario 3
They are still together.. trying to create a big lie to shut us up... maybe we are giving them too much pressure? Pressure, what's that? we didn't even give any pressure... we merely asked about them and jokingly wanna boycott them...If they can't even withstand the initial questioning by friends and all, to be really honest, i dun think it will last.... besides, being in a relationship is a happy thing and all of us give them our blessings, if they would rather conceal the truth from us, i think they are not worth our trust and blessings...

My own opinion? I have heard many versions from many people about how things were and what is her criteria for a boyfriend... my gut feeling is that she just needs somebody to help her survive through the time over there... somebody whom she can rely on and give her emotional support... somebody to keep her sane and let her know she's not alone... she makes certain things very obvious to me... and i believe that it should be very obvious in the guy's face but if he chooses not to admit that she's like that, it's his own problem... dun come crying to us saying that you need advice on how to read her mind and what is the problem... you know jolly well how is she like... if you dun, means you need more time to consider about her and then decide if you wanna do silly things for her... if nobody is exactly rooting for you and being your pom pom girls, you jolly well should know why.... face it and stop denying...