Recently, I've thought a lot about how men and women think and react to things... didn't manage to put it down until now.... A lot of them are just my personal conversations with my friends, both male and female as well as my own experiences...
People always say women are hard to please, difficult to understand, try too hard for equality and yet want to be pampered... I agree... I did a sociology course in university on the gender and we did a major discussion on equality of both sexes... while my lecturer was so crazy over the fact that women should be treated equally in our society, i felt that physically and mentally we are different.... i dun need to be treated equally but i just want to be treated fairly... i like to be pampered as a woman... to be given flowers, to be showered with love and to me, my partner has to be able to give me emotional support more than financial support.. i can earn my own money at the very least...
Women in love are very funny creatures... I had a wine session with a girlfriend last night and she told me this... women will be missing their men, wondering if they have had a bad day at work, wondering if they have had their meals, wondering if they have the time to chat, basically missing them for the whole day...men prob dun feel that way though... men will be engrossed in work and even if they have the time to go for dinner or drinks with their friends, they choose not to spend 5-10 mins to call you or send an sms to you... not even weekends, my fellow ladies... most of the time, women have to make the first move of calling the guy before he even volunteers information on his exact location... and that, in turn, would be deem as posessive by men... but what they dunno is that women have already waited a whole day just to hear your voice and it is all that matters... and besides, how much time do u need to call out and just say a word of hi? men would tell you, they are busy at work, they dun have time, they are in the middle of something... what about time before you sleep? what about time when you go for lunch or taking a smoke or coffee break? It all boils down to effort, my dear men...
Men and women before and after the start of a relationship is different too... men before the start of a relationship is eager, persistent and maybe a bit of sincere.... but once they manage to start the relationship, they relax and all other efforts to maintain the relationship immediately slides to zero... women on the other hand, is hesitant before the relationship.. unsure if he is the one whom she loves but once she sets her mind on him and decides on him, she starts to put in more effort in the relationship, she believes in maintaining the sparks... her commitment level slowly moves up the scale...
Women like to question about a lot of things.. like why did u break up with your ex? would you do this? blah blah blah.... to women, she cares and that is why she is asking more about your past... if a woman is not interested in you, she wouldn't even bother asking at all...
Women at work vs men at work are very different as well.. women will be more sensitive to ppl's feelings.. at least my female bosses were that way.. but my male bosses were more results oriented... i prefer male bosses though.. cos i feel work is work.. although there is room for emotions, time is lost... especially when you need things done quickly... quickly finish the task then we can talk about emotions.. that's my take on it... i dun like to drag things which i can finish in a short while...
so in short, men and women are very different..in relationships, in work and in life... this could go on and on for the next centuries to come.. for me, i always embrace this policy when in relationships, work or in life... always ask, communicate and clarify... if you assume, the one that is losing out is just yourself...
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