Monday, March 14, 2005

Some thoughts...

A lot of things happened over the weekend.... friday night, my cousin gave birth to a lovely baby boy... have yet to see the baby but must be cute.... met up with meg for coffee after class... had a nice time catching up... she needed to go back early cos something cropped up at home and she promised to catch up more on the following sun... hope nothing crops up...

sat is my cousin's wedding... went for the church wedding in paya lebar and the service is in chinese... half the time cannot understand... so i was a bit bored... plus the air con was super cold.. freezing my butts off... but overall, it's a beautiful service.. then in the night, went for the wedding dinner at traders hotel... like what luping said.. there's two pillars blocking the way... thank god i was not the ones blocked... food is only so so.... after the dinner, i ended up in essential brew with the guys... they were playing poker cards and i was reading papers... was so tired and wanted to quickly remove my make up.... but more importantly, from the wedding i knew that my uncle was admitted into hopsital... nothing is confirmed about his condition so i was a bit worried... but the guys were quite into their poker so i didn't want to spoil their mood... had to go along with it even though i'm tired and bothered... finally, i got home at about 130... removed the make up, showered and sat in front of the computer.... talked to BK for a while... did my quiet time and went to bed... though still quite bothered but i was truly tired....

sun.... went to visit my uncle in the hospital... things dun seem to be looking good... nobody was there to visit him... it bothered me.... just a month plus ago i saw him at home, during CNY and he was still able to chat and walk and was joking with us... now, we see him lying on the bed... looking almost ten yrs older... the doctor came by and thought we were his immediate family.. wanted to tell us his condition... heard from the nurses that his blood count is low.. need to do blood transfusion.... brother called my aunt and over the phone, she talked to the doctor.. heard from brother that things are not looking good.. they suspect it's a stroke... and although he can still walk and talk like any normal person, he probably has one of his leg in his grave already.... called his home trying to get to my aunt again to ask if she can come down to the hospital immediately... realised the three children are all at home... aunt went to visit the cousin who just gave birth.... nobody bothered about him.... it's saddening.... though i hardly see this uncle of mine but i know that for many yrs, despite the fact that he has problems at work and finding a job, he has always tried to meet the family's needs...his three children are all still studying now.. with the eldest one in uni now doing her honours year... does it run in the family? a few other of my cousins are also like this.... they couldn't be bothered who is dying or what is happening.. sometimes they dun even turn up for their own parents' funerals... some left home and never returned... but call me traditional or anything... we are blood related.. though not close to each other, we should still do something for the ones who are suffering... can't just leave them alone in hospital and die without anybody by their side..... it's lonely.... got home... i didn't do much... the thought of my cousins not bothered about their own father bothered me a lot... kept to myself at home and locked myself in the room, cried and slept... just surfaced not long ago.... next time if i have kids, i'll make sure they are close with my brothers and their kids... not be a stranger and definitely view family ties to be important....

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