From me to you...

I remember this story I read many years ago as a child...

A child was lost in one of the province in China.. when found by the local magistrate, two women came up and claimed to be his mother... being young and confused, the child is not able to recognise his real mother. Thus the magistrate ordered the two women to tell what they know about the child...

" He has a mole on the right shoulder", shouts one woman
" He has a scar on the left calf", shouts the other...

Both of them were correct.. the magistrate scratched his head.. how to decide who is his real mother? His advisor came to him and gave him this idea.

"Each woman will hold one arm of the child and pull, whoever pulls him over to her side will be the real mother." the advisor says..

As both women starts to pull, the child starts to cry as they were hurting him. The crowd that was watching this trial could do nothing but watch the poor child cry in pain.
Suddenly, one of the women let go of her grip on the child's hand, fell to the ground and wept. The other woman jumped for joy upon seeing this.

" This woman is the real mother of the child" the advisor says as he points to the woman who is weeping bitterly on the ground.

"WHY? I pulled the boy over!" exclaimed the other woman

" A real mother will not want to hurt their own child, you were only focused on winning and oblivious to the cries of the child, thus you are not the real mother." explained the advisor

Upon hearing this, the crowd applaused at the wisdom of the advisor.

I was told about the tradition of having to marry your own race. Upon hearing that, I remembered this story. I didn't want to be the one causing you hurt. I would choose to let go.. i said..Not that I do not treasure the relationship, I just do not wish to hurt the one I love.

I didn't speak to you for the past 3 days.. during these past 3 days, I thought about us... I heard a lot more about you, I'm not sure if I'm a good friend like all the other females are or am I somebody closer to heart... i thought of all the happy times we had.. be it whether when I was physically next to you or whether there with you in spirit.. those are memories which i will treasure for life because they have been incredible..

after speaking to my little bird for the past one week, i start to wonder if our trust is there in the first place... thankfully, whichever little thing she told me, you told me as well. at least you still turned out to be the person that i first knew... it is thru her that i realise how adorable you are... i've slowly forgotten all the negative side of you... the non responsiveness and all... i saw the change you made on me... the fact that just one response from you would just make me forget all my frustrations.. u would never know how happy i am receiving your response.. no matter how short...

she was telling me that i should be firm in getting an answer about my status... i thought about it for a while.. i thought about you as yourself... i felt that was a wrong approach... i felt u needed the time and space to think... not to be squeezed in a small corner..

whatever the outcome is, i'm just happy that we have shared memories... no matter how few...